Hurt

Hurt, a four letter word that has the potential to change a person's entire life. Hurt can come in either the form of physical or emotional. Physical hurts heal faster than emotional hurts. When we are hurting it does not only affect us, but also those people who care about us. That also goes for our actions, they impact those around us in a positive or negative way. I am not suggesting that we live our lives for other people, but just to be conscious that before we make a decision to think of how it will affect us later in our life, and our relationships with other people.

Hurts that have occurred in our past can have a reflection in our future, depending on how we dealt with the situation at that time. Sometimes it may seem easier to push everything into the recesses of our mind and say that our situation is different. Although, the reality is that nobody is immuned to life. One decision can lead to the road of self destruction, leaving us to look back on what we have either damaged or destroyed. At that point we must make a decision: continue down this path of destruction or we can change. 

After being hurt by other people our instincts may tell us to build up that wall and begin to live our lives with the mentality of self preservation. This can cause many problems, especially with relationships close to the heart like our family and loved ones. The love never goes away, but it may take more effort to repair that relationship. 

People who have been tend to hurt other people. This is a vicious cycle, but it is up to us as individuals to make things right as we realize them. It may seem difficult to stand alone on a decision, but we need to make decisions that will give us the best possible future. Although it may be hard to do, it is worthwhile to look deeply and reflect on these aspects of our life. It may be difficult to open up, but those who truly care will accept it and they will still be there. If anyone has encountered a hurtful situation or is currently going through a similar ordeal, feel free to contribute or ask questions.

-Jane Marie     

Making Decisions

Today I was thinking to myself "What should this weeks post be about?" , and I realized how difficult it was for me to reach a definite decision. Then it hit me, EVERYONE has to make decisions everyday!These decisions range between simple ones that don't require too much thought to life altering decisions. 

When we begin to look at the tougher decisions that is generally when problems arise. Many times a person may ask someone else for input, or weigh the pros and cons of the situation. If the good outweighs the bad, its a simple decision. Other times people may go to the extent of completely avoiding a decision for fear of the outcome and consequences. There have been a multitude of times I ask myself "why in the world did I do that?". Most of the time these decisions do not drastically change my life, but I know that eventually I will face such things. There are times that I get slightly concerned because I am realizing that if I make mistakes in small decisions, then maybe there's a problem with how I make decisions. Scary thought right? Although eventually I calm myself down and realize that everything will be fine. Even if I make a mistake, as long as I realize what I did wrong and learned from it the experience has helped me. 

Being more conscious of the decisions we all make each day may determine our future decision making capabilities. Also I am hoping to get followers more involved, so suggestions for new topics would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you and have a great week,

- Jane Marie